When Your Body Says Yes:

We are used to making drive-by requests, shouting from the other room. 

When your words, energy, and physicality are congruent, you are more likely to get what you want. We don’t realize how much our conflicting feelings and thoughts create unclear signals, as if it's an old-school radio dial tuned between 2 stations. The receiver can’t really hear what you are asking for.

Especially in long-term relationships, resentment can build up when you have made the same request repeatedly and don’t feel heard. People forget that only 30% of communication is verbal, and the rest is nonverbal. What are you actually saying with your energy and your body, and what are you genuinely open to?

Some people struggle with being approached, while others feel the challenge of asking. One person has no problem making demands at work, but an intimate connection is a whole other challenge.

Just like learning a new dance routine, you can develop relational skills through physical practice. Simple martial arts-based practices offer just enough stress to help reveal what your embodied habits and old operating system are that dictate your behavior. We then get to practice something new. You will walk away with new awareness and skill that you can apply immediately.